A Life That is Full

It’s the age old question… is the glass half empty or is it half full?  Is your life a life that you live out of fear, anxiety and doubt or is it something that you live with intention, heart and purpose?

“I am always busy, which is perhaps the chief reason why I am always well.”
- Elizabeth Cady Stanton
 

My sister sent me this quote the other day.  I’ve been struggling lately because I feel like I am not doing enough to keep myself entertained.  I mean, I work full-time, work out in the gym 5-6 times a week, take a dance class, and run a book club at my job.  I am currently pledging for the Junior Women’s society, write a blog and hang out with friends and family in my spare time.  I definitely need to add something to this list…

When we take a step back to look at life, to contemplate a problem, to analyze a person, we often want to classify it in terms of black or white.  You’re either this or you’re that.  Introverted or extroverted.  Yin or Yang.  Half full or half empty.

You see, when you look at things as only absolute, you forget about the phases in between — the gray, the introverted yet outgoing person, the extrovert who needs a break, the “good person” that makes a mistake, the “bad person” with a heart, a glass that is being filled, one that is being drank.  We forget that in the universe, we have no control and, even if we do for a little bit of time, fate has a twisted way of making changes anyways.

For a life to be full, we must realize that we will have days of empty.  We will have minutes and hours where we don’t know the direction that it is headed.  We will reach out with hands wide open because we will want to fill it with something.

It is at this time that I encourage you to resist the urge.  Let it be a little less full… because the universe will have its way of filling it up naturally.  An outreach from a loved one, an old friend saying hello, a stranger who has kind words, a new person who is ready to give.  This is a life that is full.

Success

success [suhk-ses] 
noun
  • the favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors
  • the attainment of wealth, position, honors, or the like
  • a successful performance or achievement

If we look closely enough, each of our personal definitions of success are different. For the young boy in science class, it may be becoming an astronaut.  For the mother of five, it could be having dinner ready by 7PM each night.  For the athlete, it’s always achieving the next personal record.

Regardless of the specifics, it is different for everyone.  Even you — what is your definition of success?  Take some time and think about it.

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When I was younger, many adults in my life often asked me the same question – What do you want to achieve when you are older, how do you define success?  And, I always answered the same way — “well, I want a job, a family and a house.” Boom.  Success.  The American Dream, right?

Wrong.  Well, at least in terms of narrowly defining success as such.  You see, my definition, and the examples that I gave above, and probably the one that you just thought of in your mind are very selfish viewpoints.  We may not think that, or want to admit it, but it is most likely true.

That is why I fell in love with this article on the 10 Questions that Create Success.  As defined in the article, if you can answer yes to each of these questions at the end of each day then you will be “successful.”

1. Have I made certain that those I love feel loved?
2. Have I done something today that improved the world?
3. Have I conditioned my body to be more strong flexible and resilient?
4. Have I reviewed and honed my plans for the future?
5. Have I acted in private with the same integrity I exhibit in public?
6. Have I avoided unkind words and deeds?
7. Have I accomplished something worthwhile?
8. Have I helped someone less fortunate?
9. Have I collected some wonderful memories?
10. Have I felt grateful for the incredible gift of being alive?

 

I don’t know about you, but I will be posting this to any bulletin board, fridge, reminder place that I can find.  It is the most thorough and all-encompassing definition that I have found to date.  And, with that, I consider it a “success.”

*What do you think? Do you have any questions to add??